I read a lot of different kinds of books. From thrillers to self-help and a few other kinds of books. So, I got a email today from one of the authors I have either signup for his email or bought a book, I am not sure. Anyway his name is Perry and you can find him and his books here: P.A. Wilson
He doesn’t know about this post, cause I didn’t write it for him. I am not promoting any his books, I am just answering a question that sounded simple. Till you really start thinking about it. As I did, I decided I would just write it all out in a blog post. So down the rabbit hole we go!! Alice in Wonderland anyone? LOL
The question is this: I’d love to hear what you’ve done this year that helped you stay resilient and a little in control?
I have been looking at things with this idea, if I have no control over it, I am not going to spend my days stressing /freaking out about it. With so much you can’t control? You need to just let it go. Has it tough? Sure, there are days when I just don’t feel like doing my work (I run my own vegan makeup business, I wear ALL the hats for it) so I haven’t been putting out as many colors as I would like. I am behind on blogging, creating, and so on. Its come to looking at the big picture some days just makes me want to cry, so I look at parts of it that I can work on, and go from there.
I just remind myself, I am the only one person and there are just going to be days that stuck!!
I been reading more books on self-care and even have one that you have to buy it as a paperback called The Complete Notes from the Universe by Mike Dooley. And sometimes just a note for the day just helps turn things around. (You can find this book on Amazon just do not make the same mistake I did and buy it for your Kindle. To be able to really use the book correctly? Buy it in paperback not ebook.)
I decided I am refusing the feed into the stress in life by adding to it. Comes to knowing, what you can control, and what you can’t control. I can’t change that I am handicapped, but deal with it. I have really shitty days, and I have awesome days!
I know if I am in a good mood, good things tend to happen. I wear my mask, I smile at people totally forgetting that you can’t tell that I am. I tell someone loudly “Thank You” for opening and holding the door for me. I tend to talk a bit quiet so talking loudly is a new norm for me.
Thoughts become things. The more you think about something, good or bad, the more you will receive back, good or bad. That is how I am looking at life right now. Whatever is going to happen, is going to happen no matter if I stress over it or not.
Now that doesn’t mean I have my head bury in the sand, because I don’t. I understand that life has hit all of us in one way or another and throw us up against the wall really hard!
For a example is happened a couple of days to me:
I was in the store and I had a woman come around the corner and sound like she was going to start crying. When I turn to see the person, she was on one of those scooters the store give you to ride on and she told me that as she came around the corner she thought just for a second, that she was seeing her best friend, all because of the color of my hair! Plus, she had just lost that same friend to the virus. I was at a lost of words.
So no way am I trying to down play the craziest of the world right now. But again, I am not watching the news all the time, I am not going to worry about who is going to be in the white house for the next four years. I voted, I did my duty, and I can’t change what is about happen. Whatever is going to happen, going to happen no matter how we all feel about it.
So maybe I am looking at the world a little bit with rose-colored glasses. Maybe I am thinking that there is still a lot of good in the world. The shit has hit the fan, but we all have to deal with it.
It comes down to how we all deal with it, and how we want the world around us to be.
So my question to you is the same: I’d love to hear what you’ve done this year that helped you stay resilient and a little in control?